MotherFly Musings

  • Where the Fuck I've been...

      As many of you know I've been struggling with my mental health since the birth of my third daughter six years ago. The waves of disorienting di...
  • Dolls and Dogma

      When I became a mother I took a solemn vow that my daughter would not be inundated with princess stories and Barbie dolls.  Somehow I would prot...
  • Why family "vacation" is a misnomer

      What happens when you take your 3 kids out of their normal routine (and time zone) and try to fit in as much sightseeing and activities as human...
  • Map for a New Motherhood

    Why 97% of mothers are burning out and what we can do about it. That’s right. You knew it already, but just in case you’re one of the many who nee...
  • New Year, New Hair, New Map

    Here's me feeling sexy with my new 'do and Juju, the black cat.  Big thanks to Adriana, my sister midwife and hairdresser extraordinaire, for ...
  • The Liminal Space

    We are finally here.  The last day of 2020.     A year ago today I was living in Miami and visiting The Farm in Tennessee.  I was visioning a year...
  • Rough Landing

        It’s been a while since I’ve written anything.  You may or may not have noticed. Our landing in Zion turned out to be a pinch less than my rom...
  • Sometimes The Way Forward Is To Go Back

    Return to Roots, Part 2 Sankofa is a word from the Twi language of the Akan people of Ghana, which translates to "Go back and get it."  It is...
  • The Empathy Mask

    When we look around us today, we see a country torn by increasing polarization—politically, socially, and even personally—as our lives are unravel...
  • How My Daughters Are Raising Me

    Return to Roots, Part I Let's be real folks. As much as we are raising our children, they are also raising us.  Truly.  We are holding a safe spac...
  • Premature Urge to Push: Labor, Birth, and the Pandemic

    As a midwife, I often relate to challenges through the lens of labor and birth.  This pandemic is no different.  The waves of uncertainty have was...
  • The Privilege of Freedom

      As I reflect on what it means to be free in our world today, it’s impossible not to think about the relationship between freedom and privilege.  ...